I’ve had a lot of people asking me lately why I closed my photography business in favor of this new life as a coach. And even more people who consider the option of becoming a coach themselves, only to say, “No, that would never work for me like it has for you. I’m just not that into fitness.”
Um…no. It’s not like that.
I’m not the crazy, athletic, super fit girl you remember from high school. I’m the girl no one remembers because she always had her nose in a book, because she turned down the head coach on his offer to join the girls’ basketball team (because I was tall) in favor of…well…laziness.
And yes, it was more than laziness…I am SO shy. Most people who know me don’t believe it, but I’ve come a long way from where I was in high school and shortly after. And I still have a lot of anxiety over new places, new experience, and new people. I remember when I was a kid, I had pretty well determined that I was not ever going to college, that it just wasn’t something I wanted. Because I was TERRIFIED of doing something I’d never done before. I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom…because I was too scared at the thought of getting a job.
Here’s something vulnerable…but maybe it will prove just how timid I really am (or was). In 3rd grade I was given the opportunity to participate in a week-long cheer camp, offered by the high school cheer team. I was SO excited about it, but SO terrified. TERRIFIED. So terrified, in fact….that I wet my pants right in the middle of the first class.
That. Was. Awful. THIRD GRADE! It’s something I’ve always remembered with a sick feeling in my stomach because it was so embarrassing. But I was THAT nervous to be in a new place with people I didn’t know, without my parents or anyone I trusted around me. Terrible.
Enter: Adulthood. I chose to enter adulthood cold-turkey and got married just three months after my high school graduation. It’s not something I would ever recommend to any other teenager, because it was HARD and I missed out on a lot of growing experiences.
But it’s also not something I regret, because it was right for me. How do I know? Because we’re still happily married almost 14 years and 4 kids later. It was the right choice for us at the time.
But it was hard! We stayed close to home, but even still…I stopped going to church (I was VERY active in my church and it killed me slowly to stop going.) just because I was terrified to go to a new ward for the first time in my life by myself (my husband was not active at the time). For two years I was inactive because of that fear. Ridiculous, really.
Then we did something that would change me forever. We moved away. I did NOT want to do that. I did not want to leave the security of our hometown, our families, and everything we had known our whole lives. But it was necessary for my husband to get the best education in his chosen field…so move we did. Luckily, we moved to the same area my husband’s older sister lived in with her family, so I clung to them like white on rice. Melodie helped me so much with that transition, and I’ll always be grateful for that.
Slowly, over the 2.5 years we lived there, I was able to come out of my shell. Slowly. But it helped me to become independent of my parents, which has helped me in many ways to be a stronger individual. And it helped us grow closer together as a couple, which is probably a big factor in our happiness today.
I didn’t completely overcome my trepidation during our time away, however. As soon as my husband graduated college, I begged and pleaded until he chose a job close to home, despite the major decrease in income and the need to sell our first home.
We moved back, and over the first few years I came to realize just how much I had changed. I didn’t really NEED to be with our families as much. I could feel that independence I had gained taking over. We chose to live 30 minutes away from our families, and it was the perfect combination of independence and closeness. Now we can enjoy a close relationship with our family while still being our own family unit.
Still, even with all these advancements in my own confidence, I was still terrified at the thought of new places and experiences. I was literally sick to my stomach the first day I had to attend college courses on campus. I was 25 years old and had two children, but I was terrified to the point of being ill. And it was like that EVERY semester when I started new classes.
Okay, so what does all this have to do with coaching? Just this: If I can do it…you can do it.
Seriously. Did you read all that ridiculous FEAR that I blabbed up there?? I was and still am terrified by new places and experiences. I still hate talking on the telephone because I never know if I’m interrupting something or who’s going to answer, etc. I’ve come a long way toward being more confident…but that fear still remains when I encounter the need to do something new.
So, want the nitty gritty details of why coaching can be possible for anyone, including a timid introvert like me?
What can it do for me?
There are three main areas of “influence” to coaching…at least, that’s what we’ll call it for the purpose of this discussion.
First, personal development and growth. I know…it sounds hokey. I was one who would be handed one of those “self-help” books and think it was for the hippies. SO weird, no thanks. But, as part of our training and growth in this business, we are encouraged to read at least 10 pages in a personal development book each day. For most of us, once we get started it turns into an hour or more a day because we love it so much.
The result? You learn a great deal about yourself, your areas of strength and weakness and how to improve in both. You learn how to deal with other people in a more friendly, positive way, irregardless of their behavior toward you. You learn how to take charge of your life and your destiny (yes, one of those hokey words) and choose what is in your future rather than just letting it happen. In short, you get put back in the driver’s seat of your own life. It is an incredible, empowering experience, and one that I would recommend to anyone…coach or not.
Second, there is a huge personal accountability that comes with this business. When you are helping other people with their health and fitness goals, you can’t NOT keep up with your own. You can’t surround yourself daily with people who are striving to lose weight, tone up, and be healthy, without having it influence you for the better. I never would have lost as much weight as I have or stuck with any of my own programs without this accountability aspect.
And third, of course, are the financial benefits. This is the part most people want to know about right from the first. They want to know how much money they will make. Well…it’s not like that. It’s not a JOB where you are given a salary or hourly wage and you always know how much is coming to you. This is a business, and it’s going to be different for everyone. For some, they jump in with both feet and take off from the first, and their income shows it. Others are less consistent, more hesitant to trust it or really give it their all…and their income shows it. This really is a case of “You get what you give.”
That being said, I can tell you that I have replaced the income I was earning as a photographer. I built my photography business over a period of more than 3 years. I’ve only been a coach for one year.
That’s it in a nutshell. That’s my PROOF that you can do this. I don’t CARE what your personal weaknesses are. I guarantee there’s another successful coach somewhere in our organization who has dealt with something similar and overcome it. The point is that this business offers a new life, it offers hope for those dreams you gave up on long ago. It offers an opportunity for you to change who you are and become something you CHOOSE to become, rather than just letting life happen.
If I can do this. . . so can you.
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I DARE you to consider this. I dare you to dream a little more than you have in years. I dare you to believe that there is something incredible in your future.